- 2 months ago
My college has a page in which student secrets can be posted anonymously. Some are good, some are bad, and some are complete bullshit. I came across one that made me think. To make it short, the individual, a female was disappointed in the male population. According to her, men didn’t have marriage as a priority and instead value sex.
I responded: As a woman to another woman I must tell you that expecting a man to have marriage in mind is foolish. It doesn’t matter if he’s our age or older. From my experience with younger AND older men, sex is usually the first thing in a man’s mind. It is how they are wired to function. This doesn’t make men bad, it just means we as women must learn to navigate around this. It is better to date around WITHOUT having marriage in mind. Marriage is a huge step. That can be kept on the back burner but shouldn’t be at the forefront. While dating it is good to have some standards, nothing too high, but nothing too low where you begin to compromise important needs. Not expecting too much will help you out in the long run and will land you the ideal man that is suited for you.
Now, I am not a believer in generalizations. I know not all men are after sex, but that a good majority are. However, I am never one to sugarcoat things. I respect the girl’s decision to value marriage. I actually encourage it, but one must also live within the reality of a situation.
The question and response got me thinking though, Is it foolish of us to expect anything from anyone? I personally expect respect and fairness from others. Am I a fool to do so?
- 2 months ago